I don’t know, I just wanted to comment on a thought…
I remember during a low point a few years ago, I would sleep a lot of my time. Reasoned because I didn’t want to be conscious, didn’t want to go through motions. I don’t remember if I dreamt a lot, or how well I slept.. But I definitely slept more than I should have. This may have been caused by stress as well… But depression isn’t exactly relaxing.
I almost wish that my coping before was still similar to what I do now. But then again, if they were similar, the situation would be different, and I proly wouldn’t be having the problem.. I don’t know. It’s almost a great flip, but it’s not a good one. At least, I wouldn’t say or think so, not right now.
Note: The cure for asthma is not, “Just breathe!”, and the cure for cancer is not, “Stop growing those cells!” Similarly, the cure for depression is not, “Just be happier!”, and the cure for anxiety is not, “Stop worrying so much!” These are not phases of life for teenagers and the weak-minded - they are serious and chronic medical illnesses.
Just something that should be said.
Because I really want to get my opinion out there:
No, you don’t.
You absolutely have no “need” or “must” be thinner. You will not be happier, healthier, or more able to have able children if you are thinner. If you are healthier, then you might be thinner. But being thinner does not necessarily mean you are healthier, or even healthy. In many possible cases, because of this mindset, people become unhealthy. And if you’re thinking in this trapping mindset, you’re probably leaking a bit of unhealthy already.
If anything, you need to be healthier. You want to be healthier in body, if you’re not getting enough exercise and if you’re not feeding your body the nutrients it needs. You want to be healthier in mentality, if you’re thinking this way- that you require yourself to be different, because society tells you too, or you think you’re not good enough. To be healthier, you first need to admit and commit- recognize what it is you need to change the snare of this thought, and then dedicate yourself to a positive change.
I am not pro-ED, pro-SH, supportive of anything that may imply an unhealthy mindset. (This does not mean I am not prone to poor thinking.) I don’t like the idea of the societal pressure “thin” means “better” or “perfect” or “happier”.
Understanding depression in a friend or family member
· Depression is a serious condition. Don’t underestimate the seriousness of depression. Depression drains a person’s energy, optimism, and motivation. Your depressed loved one can’t just “snap out of it” by sheer force of will.
· The symptoms of depression aren’t personal. Depression makes it difficult for a person to connect on a deep emotional level with anyone, even the people he or she loves most. In addition, depressed people often say hurtful things and lash out in anger. Remember that this is the depression talking, not your loved one, so try not to take it personally.
· Hiding the problem won’t make it go away. Don’t be an enabler. It doesn’t help anyone involved if you are making excuses, covering up the problem, or lying for a friend or family member who is depressed. In fact, this may keep the depressed person from seeking treatment.